What I like about being an Observer

• I can stand back and view life objectively and remain calm in a crisis.
• I am not overly concerned with money or status.
• I have a sense of integrity, and do what I think is right without being influenced by what others think.

What I don’t like about being an Observer

• I sometimes act defensively or cynically,
• I feel under pressure when I’m with people I don’t want to be with.
• I see less intelligent people becoming successful due to their social skills.
• I seem unable to express myself clearly at times.

Things I would never do

• Throw a surprise party or sell double glazing.
• Volunteer to be master of ceremonies at a high school reunion.
• Only read the society pages of a newspaper.

How to relate with me

• Give me time alone to analyse my thoughts and feelings.
• Speak in a straightforward way.
• Remember that I may appear aloof and distant because I don’t like being rushed.
• Don’t be gushing – I may doubt your sincerity.
• If I appear irritated, it is with myself, for not expressing myself adequately.
• Realise that I dislike social gatherings, loud people and having my privacy invaded.

Things people say about me

• “He’s a loner.  He’s quite content to spend hours on his own absorbed in intellectual pursuits.”
• “He has a calm, quiet manner.  He seems to see things differently from the rest of us.”
• He is knowledgeable about almost every subject.

Things I should affirm to myself

• Social interaction is necessary for personal growth.
• I will get rid of my preconceptions about people.
• I don’t have to always be trying to out-think others.